If I could go back and whisper something to 30-something-year-old me, it might sound like this list. It’s my personal Top Ten List of Things Parents Can Do to Help Their Children Succeed (or, how to raise kids that don’t suck). Today, the first three things I believe every parent can do to help their kids grow into strong, grounded, capable adults.
Author Archives: Duane S. Montague
Love is the Tuesdays
Some days don’t feel extraordinary — they just feel like Tuesdays. But I’m learning that love often shows up in those ordinary, faithful moments. This post is a reminder that showing up—quietly and consistently—is sacred work.
When You Can’t Be Everything, Be Present
I’m learning I don’t have to be everything for everyone. I just have to be present—to my people, to the moment, and to the God who holds what I can’t. That’s where grace lives.
The Best Moments Are the Ones You Don’t Plan
Sometimes the moments that matter most aren’t the ones we plan. They’re the quiet, ordinary ones—like pancakes on a Saturday—that leave the deepest imprint. This post is a reminder that the real magic happens in the in-between.
When the Chapter Changes
On Wednesday, I shared this: “God is writing your story in chapters. He doesn’t write it in sentences. And you’re still in the middle of His story.” And I meant it, because I’ve lived it. There have been more than a few times I’ve looked around and wondered, “Is this it? Is my story done?”Continue reading “When the Chapter Changes”
A Little Less Me
Something that I’ve been reflecting on, post- Easter, is the idea of humility. It’s not my go-to feeling or attribute, and many dear friends and family members may even laugh when they think about me wanting to be more humble. A younger me often struggled with wanting recognition and fame—but the older I get, theContinue reading “A Little Less Me”
Being a Dad to Older Kids is Weird
Becoming a father for the first time 25 years ago, the author felt unprepared for the emotional challenges of parenting. Managing his children’s diverse emotions was tough, and he realized that his older kids don’t always want to hear his advice. Despite this, he finds solace in the hope that they’ll appreciate his wisdom one day.
Do Good.
The letter of Galatians emphasizes the importance of doing good to everyone. It extends beyond spiritual acts to everyday kindness. Small gestures such as smiling, complimenting, aiding others, or sharing encouragement can spread joy and kindness. This simple reminder encourages continuous acts of kindness, leaving a positive impact on the world.
Love Words
This is our 26th Valentine’s Day together, and Robyn and I have learned a lot over that lifetime. The journey has taught us that love goes beyond sweet words; it demands forgiveness, grace, and mercy. Amidst the commercialized love expressions, we’ve learned that love is defined by these deeper values, shaping our everyday reality and proving that love is indeed work.
Re-igniting the Spark of Creation
The author deleted Facebook and Instagram to focus on family and address an unhealthy social media obsession. This led to rediscovering creativity through introspection, scripture, and writing. The author plans to blog, restart a podcast, and revive a newsletter, feeling inspired and content without social media. The experience has been transformative, leading to newfound purpose and creativity.
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